Week Three – Day 4. Thursday, February 2, 2017.
Read Proverbs 3:12, 22:6 SOAP Proverbs 22:6
PROVERBS 3:11, 12 My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline or be weary of his reproof, for the Lord reproves him whom he loves, as a father the son in whom he delights.
PROVERBS 22:6 6 Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
O – I had to put verse 11 with Proverbs 3:12 because of the word “for.” That refers BACK to the preceding verse….
We are told NOT to despise (reject) God’s discipline or correction or to be grieved or abhor His rebuke or correction. WHY? This is in verse 12, today’s reading. FOR, or BECAUSE God chastens (reproves, corrects) those whom He loves, AS (or just like) a father corrects the child (son) that he delights in. Unpacking this verse shows me that God’s correction, His discipline is like a father’s discipline of a child whom he loves and delights in. It is not discipline for the sake of discipline, but for the child. It is correction, setting on the right way.
Proverbs 22:6 also gives instruction to parents, in raising children. They are to “train up” a child in the “way” he should go. It is training in the life journey – raising them to choose the way of wisdom, as set forth in God’s law, and in the principles within. While some may see this as a guarantee, that a child WILL NOT depart from God, but this is a proverb. It is a generality, not a promise. But – it is a principle. Training a child, when done in love and consistency, will most likely result in a child who chooses to follow. But it is their choice. This is a difficult verse for parents who struggle with adult children who choose not to follow God’s ways. I don’t have an answer for this…..
A – Two take away’s today:
I am glad, looking back, for God’s working in my life. I am strong-willed, and can be stubborn. (yes – I realize this!) While it may not show on the outside, it is there on the inside!! God has used difficult circumstances in my life to train me, to help turn me to His way, to teach me. After my marriage ended, it was difficult to learn to trust, to bring others into my life, but God also used this time to teach me that HE was there. HE did not leave. He used that time to bring me to the place to trust Him, and then to learn to trust others. He loves me as His child, and corrected and trained me as such.
I am so blessed to see our five adult children following the Lord, and now, bringing their own children up in the Lord. Spending time with each family, I see the results of faithful teaching and training on the parts of Paul, Bev, and myself, in the lives of the kids. Oh, we weren’t perfect. Far from it! But, with God’s wisdom, with family and church family support, and working to provide consistent training, we now see the fruit in our children. I pray for these young parents as THEY parent their children, train them, and model God’s love in front of them. And, for Paul and I, as we learn to model love with our adult children – and the grandchildren. It is a blessing to see them correct their children, in love. It IS difficult! It IS work! But, God is with us, and works in our hearts as we work to train the “way” of children.
OK – a third. We are called to model God’s love and to speak into the lives of those spiritual “children” that we have in our circle of relationships. That sometimes calls for correction and reproof. We need to earn the right to speak in this way, but we are also CALLED to speak in this way. Discipleship comes with modeling, but also training. I pray that I will be a woman who speaks in love, and models in love, and trains in love. It is part of being the woman in Titus 2 “”teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addictions to much wine, but to teach what is good. THEN they can train the younger women….” (Titus 2:3,4) May that be true in my life!
P – Father God, thank You for the blessings and insight that You provided today. Thank You for those times of discipline in my life, times that You taught me and corrected me. You love me, and delight in me. That is a thought that brings me such peace now. Father, thank You for our children, who work diligently to train their own children now. Be with them. Help them to model Your love in front of their children. Help them to be consistent and real. May those eight grandchildren, and those to come, live in Your love, following Your ways in Your wisdom. And now, Father, help me to be the woman that You would have me to be. Work in my heart so that it is pure. Teach me Your ways. And help me love others as You have loved me. Amen.
Study Notes: (lumina, Strong’s)
tn Heb “chastens.” The verb יָכַח (yakhakh) here means “to chasten; to punish” (HALOT 410 s.v. יכח 1) or “to correct; to rebuke” (BDB 407 s.v. 6). The context suggests some kind of corporeal discipline rather than mere verbal rebuke or cognitive correction. This verse is quoted in Heb 12:5-6 to show that suffering in the service of the Lord is a sign of membership in the covenant community (i.e., sonship).
Reprove – Yakach- to prove, decide, judge, rebuke, reprove, correct, be right
Delights – ratsah – to be pleased with, be favourable to, accept favourably
Verse 11 – tn The verb (quts) has a two-fold range of meaning: (1) “to feel a loathing; to abhor” and (2) “to feel a sickening dread”. The parallelism with “do not despise” suggests the former nuance here. The common response to suffering is to loathe it; however, the righteous understand that it refines one’s moral character and that it is a means to the blessing.
Despise – ma’ac to reject, despise, refuse
Discipline – muwcar – discipline, chastening, correction
Be weary – quwts to be grieved, loathe, abhor, feel a loathing or abhorrence or sickening dread
Reproof – towkechah – rebuke, correction, reproof, punishment, chastisement
Train – (chanak) – to train, dedicate, inaugurate, to narrow, figuratively – to initiate or discipline, dedicate, train up
In the way – (derek) – way, road, distance, journey, manner, direction, habit, of course of life, of moral character
tn The verb חָנַךְ (khanakh) means “to train up; to dedicate” . The verb is used elsewhere to refer to dedicating a house (Deut 20:5; 1 Kgs 8:63; 2 Chr 7:5). The related adjective (khanikh) describes “trained, tried, experienced” men. In the related cognate languages the verb has similar meanings: Aramaic “to train,” Ethiopic “to initiate,” and Arabic IV “to learn; to make experienced”. This proverb pictures a child who is dedicated by parents to the Lord and morally trained to follow him.
tn The expression in Hebrew is עַל־פִּי דַּרְכּוֹ (’al-pi darko), which can be rendered “according to his way”; NEB “Start a boy on the right road.” The expression “his way” is “the way he should go”; it reflects the point the book of Proverbs is making that there is a standard of life to which he must attain…… In the book of Proverbs there are only two ways that a person can go, the way of the wise or righteousness, and the way of the fool. One takes training, and the other does not.
sn The expected consequence of such training is that it will last throughout life. The sages were confident of the character-forming quality of their training. However, proverbs are not universal truths. One can anticipate positive results from careful child-training – but there may be an occasional exception.
Train Up a Child in the Way He Should Go (Steve Green) – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9C4lRUBHA_8